I also tend to agree with driv. I have found that I really need to not "babysit" people.
When I first started my forum (nearly 7 years ago), I wanted to make sure EVERYONE was happy. Trust me - that's just not possible. I figure if most of the people are happy most of the time, then we're doing well.
I actually do not do anything about a person who "speaks down" - unless they are breaking "name-calling" rules, or really being obvious about it. Sometimes people don't even know they're doing it - and certainly don't mean it that way. It's difficult to moderate for "intent". In the end, it's nearly all a judgement call, and that's why I find that clearly defined rules help a lot.
Plus, as driv says - they're all grownups, and human.
