Ive decided to go for a re-install ;(
Its the only way to be sure about the ownership of the file being correct and preventing future problems too.
I tweaked one of my forums today and got a snotty reply.
/home/domains/mysite.co.uk/public_html/forums/libs/mysql.inc.php on line 210
As i'm still finding that ownerships are still messed up, but give me some credit ??
I fixed it went in and made the mysql permissions back to mysql,
and it seems to be working now.
In a spooky kind of a way ive learned so much in a short time,
and continue to learn